When it comes to sex, comparing women and men is like comparing a desert dwelling Bedouin to a native of Seattle. Seattlites reputedly don't tan, but rust. In Seattle, officials declare a drought if it doesn't rain for a few weeks or the snow pack in the Cascade mountains is less than normal. In Seattle, the only people who really worry about a water-shortage work for Puget Power or Seattle City Light, and it's not drinking water, but water to generate hydro-electric power that silvers their hair. Water? We usually have more than we need, and sometimes it can be a real nuisance.
In the desert, on the other hand, the Bedouins reputedly watch every drop. To them, it's a precious commodity they go out of their way to get. A typical Bedouin, who may expend far more effort than any Seattlite in pursuit of water, likely drinks less than even the driest resident of the Puget Sound region.
Analogously, the same can be said of women, men, and sex.
Mothers and female teachers instruct girls and young women to be aloof, withhold sex, and give it only to the most persistent, exciting or richest men. Conversely, mothers, female teachers, and social myths all teach men to value female sexuality above male sexuality, and to believe women supply the sex men must earn. Thus, women grow up in what Roy Schenk calls a Sexual Rainforest, while men grow up in a Sexual Desert. (The Other Side of the Coin, Roy U. Schenk, p 72)
During the peak of their sexual power, single women have the attention of about 4.5 million extra men. (Men and Marriage, George Gilder, p 54) That is, for most women in their twenties, there is one plus 4.5 million men. Having such a large selection from which to choose (read: accept or reject offers), women are less preoccupied with sex than men are. In fact, many of them even feel harassed by it, just as a native of Seattle is frequently irritated by the abundance of rain. But this can change.
Many men have already changed. They don't sexually objectify women, they do approach women as equals, they are attentive and nurturing, and, while some people call them "nice guys," others, primarily women, call them "Just Friends," or "Wimps." Thus, most men have met women more than half-way, and most women are demanding more. This isn't fair. Men know it. And soon men may change again.
As the men's movement matures, men will stop deflating the value of male sexuality and demand the respect and equality with women they deserve. In the sexual desert, this is inevitable.
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