By Rod Van Mechelen
"Do men ever cry after sex?" "No, they just fall asleep." - Casual Sex?, the movie
One track mind?
1992 & 1993 Bellevue, Wash. - According to the 1993 Battelle Human Affairs Research Center study of male sexuality, 7.3 is the median number of sex partners American men have in their life time: half of all men will have fewer than 7.3 partners, half will have more. Yet, the mean average is 16.2. (If this is "Mr. Average," then no wonder so many men are sexually invisible to women - they aren't even average!)
What this means is the myth about men only wantiing one thing is just that...a myth perpetuated by the relatively few men who have many more than 7.3 sex partners.
This proves what millions of men have always known - most guys aren't out there humping like bunnies; nor, for that matter, are they even getting as much sex as a typical 20-year-old woman.
Hmmm. If most men really aren't getting all that much sex, then what makes pop feminists say there's a double sexual standard, unless they know something (about themselves) the rest of us don't?
Women never sleep and men never cry
I once knew a woman who could never achieve more than three orgasms before she fell asleep. The myth is that men never cry after sex, and women never sleep.
Another myth is that single men are more sexually active than single women. As George Gilder notes, in the younger age groups, "single men have...less than half as much sexual activity as single females." (Men and Marriage, George Gilder, pp 63 - 64)
How is this possible? Because, despite that some women complain of a "man shortage," there is a "surplus" of about 4.5 million single, separated and divorced men competing for the attention of women of child-bearing age. (Men and Marriage, George Gilder, p 54)
With such a surplus of men, it's easy to see why most women have the option of indulging in casual sex to an extent most men do not. But do they like it that way? According to Shere Hite, 13 percent of single women do (Women and Love: A Cultural Revolution in Progress, St. Martin's Press mass market edition, 1989, Shere Hite, p 211), while 83 percent would prefer more meaningful relationships. (Women and Love: A Cultural Revolution in Progress, St. Martin's Press mass market edition, 1989, Shere Hite, p 214) Still, 23 percent of single women eventually reject monogamy (Women and Love: A Cultural Revolution in Progress, St. Martin's Press mass market edition, 1989, Shere Hite, p 215), and seventy-two percent do indulge in casual sex. (Women and Love, St. Martin's Press mass market edition, 1989, Shere Hite, p 220)
How do men feel about this? Most men don't like the idea of casual sex. (The Hite Report on Male Sexuality, Shere Hite, p 379) So which gender really has a "one-track-mind"? Which gender is more sexual? Which gender "only wants one thing"?
I have no answers to these questions. But clearly, while pop feminists tell the world men are sex-crazed predators who rape and molest anything that moves, young women are having a lot more sex, and a lot more casual sex than most men could imagine in their wildest dreams of lasciviousness. This brings to mind the saying about the "pot calling the kettle black."
Rod Van Mechelen
Rod Van Mechelen is the author of What Everyone Should Know about Feminist Issues: The Male-Positive Perspective (the page now includes several articles by other authors), and the publisher of The Backlash! @ Backlash.com. He is a member of the Cowlitz Indian Tribe and served for 9-1/2 years on the Cowlitz Indian Tribal Council.