In the fifties and sixties, this was clearly a problem. But don't most college women today go on to seek careers? Yes, they do. But, as Tara Roth Madden points out, most women pursue careers to find a husband. (Women Vs. Women, Tara Roth Madden, pp 72 - 73)
This is further supported by studies of the college and professional careers of women where researchers discovered that women, despite their college education and professional accomplishments, still make romance their primary concern. (Science, Vol. 252, 17 May 1991, Myra Marx Ferree, p 990, review of Educated In Romance, by Dorothy C. Holland & Margaret A. Eisenhart) Hence, indirectly, most women still go to college to obtain their "MRS. degrees."
My own experiences support this: At Microsoft, many young, new millionaires work there, and many of the single women I met while working there often expressed a great deal of interest in me until they found out I was not one of the up and comers. At that point, they couldn't, as the saying goes, be bothered to give me the time of day.
Hundreds of men have told me they share similar experiences. We cannot casually dismiss the commonalty of this experience among men. Too many of us know it's true.
Is there anything wrong with this? Is it wrong for women to objectify men as walking wallets? If it's wrong for men to treat women as sex objects, then yes, it is. But is there anything wrong with a woman putting marriage and a family ahead of career? Again, yes it is. But only if it's not what she really wants.
The right to choose is fundamental to feminism, and both women and men should have the right to choose for themselves which is better. If a woman wants to get an "MRS. degree," great! Women who do that ensure the survival of humanity. If a woman wants to have both a career and marriage, equally great -- so long as her children do not suffer from her and her husband's choices, they do well.
What harms society are the pop-feminists who harangue the freely made choices of millions of women and men.
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